Jump into the unknown! | Patrik Keyr | TEDxNovyPorgSchool
I believe that everyone in this room and everyone in this world knows what they should do even though you don't know but you know you have to find things you should do let's start with that and because this event is called step into unknown I found that the biggest fact that is holding us back from stepping into unknown is a fear of other people's opinion I truly believe that because the fear of other people's opinion is holding us back from doing what we like from doing what we like and from doing what we want from Glee what we shoot from from doing things that fulfills us from the things that makes us happy and I can really stand out the fact that 90% of us are stuck in their lives because of because of other people's opinion because of my little pony 24 on Instagram it's telling us that we suck and that's the reason why we're not doing it so and as the Patrick was saying before the world is changing and the requirements for us to succeed in this world changing as well and maybe you probably heard it before but we need to be different to succeed in this world who heard this before that's not too much so anyway and most people ask me hey Patrick how do I become different and like man you got it wrong you are already different you are already different you just need to you are already different and you just need to start living on your own and stop carrying carrying about other people's opinion I know it's really hard when you're friends when your mom and your dad when you're friends and school teachers are telling you the opposite that you shouldn't do that but when your heart is telling you to do it I want you to do it and when I was talking about the about being different the fear is holding us back also from being who we are so and this is holding us back from the success because we are not different we are not ourselves and I will share your story with you I'll show you some of you that it's not connected to a business but it's my latest experience with having a huge amount of fear it was last November I out of nowhere I saw a girl at school and I found her really really pretty and I said oh god I'm gonna get this girl I want to get a date with this girl so I just walked into the school all pumped up like I saw that girl but I like got into stress she walked by I'm like oh my god magic if you suck like oh god what I'm doing wrong so I went on YouTube watch every single video on how to pick up girls how to get confident I like searched for all the programs how to do that and like watched every single piece of advice I could so and I like okay Patrick now I'm ready to do it two months later I walked into the school already and I like saw that girl she passed by I like damn I again done nothing what's wrong something like reflected my life because I'm lacking confidence still I watched video on confidence and I don't have don't have it so I like reflected my life because in business I'm very confident person but in picking up girls in school oh my god I wasn't so I was like what about doing a business that here isn't here's missing and like I'm what is it what is it Patrick and I found out that I wanted to be confident wanted to felt good before I even took action so the point I'm trying to give you you is we are all trying to be confident feel good about ourselves before we even done something before we even practice the certain things so I'm like okay so I got it I need to take actions didn't need to take action so I'm like okay the next day I'm gonna be good I'm gonna take action I went to school so that girl again I did nothing magic I like I again sit down and thought about what's the next thing that's missing to me that I have in business I'm confident I can walk to anybody but here I can do it what's that I like is that is the girls that she has all around her with herself like she is always working walking with five friends like I'm so afraid what these girls I got say about me I'm so afraid of these girls like yeah so I decided like yo I miss the point I told myself okay she always have she always has like five girls around her I'm gonna walk after her when she's alone I waited two months and like she's that alone man come on I like man I need it doesn't work out so I'm like okay I reflected myself to a business person I'm like what I'm doing wrong I'm like I'm still waiting for the opportunity I need to create an opportunity and whatever it takes whatever the situation is I need to take action I need to stop worrying all the girls all my friends like we can say about me I'm gonna do it like oh yo so I felt lucky this is it man so I went to school and again what happened I didn't need it so I'm like that chick I I don't know what to do like lying in my bed at night I'm like yo what's missing I'm like 4 in my head are you okay Patrick with with being afraid of other people's opinion and not saying hi to that girl and living life that you haven't tried it like I'm not okay with that so Patrick you you know everything you just gotta do it like yeah that's it so the next day I went to school like this is the day I saw that girl she passed by like yo Patrick what the hell what should be talking about yesterday it's all like turn around where did that go get a date and we are not together but but what I want you to say what I want to like learn from this example it's not from peace from my business world it's from my personal world but I want you to show the free lessons that we can apply everywhere in our lives that are connected to being afraid of unknown and of other people's opinion the one is that I was talking about the confidence comes always after the action we like now we have all because of the social media and good stuff around us people solve it is sharing only the good stuff only like how they're living good lives no struggles like overnight successes and we feel bad about ourselves so we don't want to look bad because everyone trying to be and trying to look good and so we have fragile egos and we don't want to look bad so I know it's tough by the feeling good feeling and the confidence comes always after the action and the second one is the second one is the zero option mentality that I apply in most areas that I could I can and it means whatever the situation is you got to do it and the third point I'm going to explain you it like in an imagination I would like you to imagine your dream life in 20 years how would your life look like what house would you like to live in or car would you like to drive what wife would you like to have her husband what kids you would like to have what places you would like to go to like what is it it's a great it's a great imagination I loved it I did every day but I want you to think about totally differently I want you to think about being in 20 years being 40 years old and having the exactly same life as you have today I want you to think about it I think in next when you use your gonna be sitting on a sofa with the peel in your hand watching TV and telling all the stories how our life sucked you and this imagination really drives me crazy and what like connects me to the story before that I wasn't okay with not doing it and being driven and like controlled by other people's opinion and with what I want to end today's speech is like the lady's face I was talking about being 40 years old and not achieving or even getting closer to what you want is regret there was the final thing that moved me forward was regret because when I see 70 years old 80 year olds having regret in their eyes being 80 years old and not be able to climb that mountain that you always wanted to not be able to start a business that you always wanted to know not be able to play tennis at your kids anymore because we are 70 to 80 years old and the live past and I am 18 years old but twice as that it's going to go so quickly the next 20 years twice is that I'm gonna be 40 years old as I told you before and it's going so quickly so quickly all these people saying you have all the time in the world my man we are going to be 40 years old a quick this quickly it's going to pass so quickly so I don't want you to waste that time being afraid of other people's opinion I want you to rethink about the title of today's today's event I don't want you to step into unknown I don't want you to be like Carolyn like Oh step into an O or is it is it okay are you came on with that like I want you to not step into unknown I want you to freaking jump into unknown so thank you so much you [Music]