The 4 things to do before your lose your job | Paolo Gallo | TEDxPlaceMuseux
URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r3FBd_HKT0 Video ID: 7r3FBd_HKT0 ============================================================ [Music] you may think that superheroes were invented in united states in the 50s or the 60s you're wrong superheroes with superpower were actually invented and created in greece 3000 years ago they have 12 olympian gods the most important of them is zeos when the romans conquered greece they didn't really bother to create new gods and therefore they literally cut and pasted the greek gods and translate into roman religion except one god a true roman god let me introduce him to him his name is janus and is considered the god of transitions because he symbolized the moment of transition between life and death war and peace summer and winter it was really an important god according to the romans and in case you wonder why january is called that way is because it was worshipped as the god of the beginning and general is called that way in honor of janus now look at the iconic feature of janus yes two faces one looking at the pasta the face of wisdom because we have to learn from the past and one looking at the future a younger more energetic face looking at the future looking at the age of change at the age of transition so we should relate to januza because we're exactly in an age of change as we speak and as we look into the future the question is which kind of future do we want to see and are we seeing the answer is we don't know we don't know what the future unfold but we probably know that is unlikely that the future can be defined as a new normal which to my surprise has been kind of accepted term from maybe many organization newspaper and an academic but really should we really expect normality going forward in order to understand this we i'm gonna ask once more some help from our greek friends because normal is a greek word for canonicus means conforming to a type standard regular average predictable what people expect and my question to you is are we really sure that what is coming next can be defined as normal in my view what i think is coming next can be better defined as a new context something that we need to shape that's going to be made by chaos crisis the necessity to take decisions complexity confusion and guess what constant change so this conversation is divided in two parts the bad news and the good news the bad news is gonna last only a few seconds and the bad news part is gonna last a little bit longer it's gonna be a lot of fun but it's gonna be a little bit smelly and with some tears smelly because we have to sweat and to do quite a lot of work over there now the bad news is you're going to lose your job let me repeat you are going to lose your job or at least the job that you're currently doing is going to be so different in three maximum five years down the line that you need to acquire completely new skills in order to be able to do it it's fair to say that uh people losing jobs happened before because of technological changes look at this guy for example his job was to wake up people at 5 30 in the morning and he probably lost his job when the alarm clock were invented and the second guy is a guy that lost his job as well when they invented a proper raider however we shouldn't feel too sorry for him because it doesn't look too happy anyway so the question is why are we going to lose our job we're going to lose our job because the the moment that we're leaving and the characteristic of what the new context will be can be defined in perhaps in three different elements the first one constant change means amazing speed exponential speed the exponential speed of what we're seeing is uh incredible right now the second element is uh what we see in front of us and the the magnitude of the problem problems are not exclusively being complicated but also complex this is not just a semantic difference between the two words but a complicated problem requires technical expertise to solve it while a complex problem requires constant learning adaptation sense making the capacity to connect adults the capacity to develop contextual intelligence and the capacity of collaborating between different people but the last element is what we see right now is not only happening fast it's not only complicated and complex but it's also changing us the changing the way we relate to each other is changing the way we relate to other human beings and to society in general to the point that kai fully uh described the society we're moving into uh it's called the homo society which a society in which online with merge with offline and to certain extent if you think about were becoming like mangrovius these amazing plants are so important for the ecosystem they're growing in brackish water an example let me introduce you to akiko akiko kondo who has recently met and married an hologram however as a personal favor may kindly ask you not to say this to my wife because she can be tempted to do exactly the same so let me show you a wonderful masterpiece is a ferrari t8 and my question to you is what allows this car to go to up to 350 kilometers per hour when i see questions to my in my workshop and seminar people responded by saying the engine the aerodynamics the road condition the tires the pilot the technology and this sensor are correct but when you think about what allows this car or any car to go up to the speed are the brakes so in a moment where you're entering such a new context my question to you is are you using your brakes or if you want rule number one of what you have to do when you lose your job rule number one is take care of yourself let me give a bit of a evidence of the of this element people when they have a pet in 96 percent of the cases they end up taking care of their pets by following the instruction given by the vet when they take a legendary parents or maybe a vulnerable and sick friend to the doctor is still very high 88 percent of people end up following the instruction of the doctor but what's happened when we go to the doctor for ourselves and in less than 40 percent of the cases we are taking care of ourselves the way the doctor is telling us to do because we'll keep on thinking that where we can postpone the moment which we're taking care of ourselves and it's dangerous to deferred our maintenance so let me to certain extent it is also interesting to see that people appear to be more concerned about recharging their phone than recharging themselves so the first rule let me repeat is very important the first rule when you lose your job either to take care of yourself and like jordan peterson wrote you have to treat yourself like someone you're responsible for helping so the first rule is taking care of yourself and then what we start with this very powerful question what are you good at what are your strengths what is your talent what is your passion and in case you're still struggling in understanding and finding the right answer you can actually find some great help from your friends so let me share a small secret with you something that you may want to do is uh send an sma so what's up to 50 people colleagues and friends that knows you quite well and you ask them which three words comes to your mind when you think of me then sit down read and listen what they say to you this is an amazing opportunity to learn from other people and probably you will find out gift amazing skills capacities insights they will help you to find a way now let's say for a second that you are a portfolio manager a portfolio manager is somebody who's managing the financial portfolio of somebody and the objective of that person is to increase the value of this portfolio let's assume that rather than managing the portfolio somebody else you have to increase the value of your career increase the value of your career so what would you do now i've been direct of human resources organization and i noticed that a lot of people do a very simple mistake which is they confuse the value of their career with their salaries so they try to constantly increase their salaries without increasing the value and the impact that they provide to the company this is a big mistake my suggestion is focus first on increasing the value of your career and how do you increase the value of your career by doing these three things which i believe is going to be helpful in your journey the first one you have to increase and develop your knowledge capital knowledge capital is what you know and there are fundamentally two kinds of learning the technical learning which is relatively easy to measure let's say you want to learn to play piano to play tennis or a language there are different steps that gives you a sense of how much you've progressed on the specific domain but also the personal learning which to me is the starting point because we tend to forget that we are human being before human doing so start with a personal learning uh two things to remember the first one make sure that you invest at least five hours per week in your professional development because you don't do it you're kind of responsible and you're not actually increasing the value of your career and the second one is to make sure that whatever you learned has to translate into practical results so what if if i were to say to you then annoyed by heart or the recipe of italian cuisines i can do pasta pizza melonzana parmigiana my favorite but i never cooked a dish you would not take me seriously because have not demonstrated that my knowledge has an impact so make sure that you know how to cook as well meaning that in addition to the theoretical knowledge these are translated into results and impact for your company your colleagues the clients you serve the second thing that you have to do is to reinforce your relationship capital and let's be clear about one thing this is not about increasing exponentially the number of people that you have contact with it's not about having 50 000 followers on facebook or linkedin or whatever social media is about being at the service of others so to certain extent your relationship capital is like your bank account you have to deposit first before you're able to withdraw let's also understand another point which is visibility and credibility are two different things you don't want to be visible with a million people you want to be credible with few hundred people and credibility is a lot to do with developing trust integrity and a way of doing things that makes you feel comfortable the third element that we discussed is you have to protect your reputational capital this is essential your reputation is fundamentally what people say is about you when not in the room and it's a lot to do is define but what you're not prepared to do in order to achieve whatever goals you you set yourself to um this is absolutely important and if you think about our professional and personal value the ppv is equal to knowledge capital plus relationship capital multiplied by reputational capital so the question is why multiplied well because we know that a number multiplied by zero remains zero so the reputational capital is incredibly important and you have to preserve and you curate in a impeccable way so your professional and personal value is therefore equal to your knowledge capital plus relationship capital multiplied by the reputational capital so is this formula the results over 20 years of analysis and studies gonna get me at the nobel prize i don't think so i don't think so this is the result of an experience and some reflection that i want to share with you a few years ago i was surrounded by my boss and i really thought that he wanted to discuss the work that i've done during the weekend because he has the habit to ask me to work over the weekend as i enter into his office he looked at me and he said you need to leave i remain silent and after a few seconds of disbelief i ask her can you tell me why and his answer was i don't have time to dwell into details go so i left his office and uh with the distinct feeling that he enjoyed that conversation that to me was in the conversation was an execution it was really terrible i wasn't only fired i was i believe obliterated and then i left this organization literally a couple of days later i still believe that in my 32 years experience it's been the most traumatic experience of my professional life i have to confess that the week following this day were terrible i didn't sleep i was desperate upset i didn't sleep many times and these are the tears that was referring at the beginning of the speech then one day i was walking along the lake i remembered that many years before my daughter came to me she was five at the time and she asked a very simple question the question was daddy where do i found happiness daddy where do i found happiness as of i was tempted to tell her ask mommy but then my wife gave me quite a hard look so i decided not to and so a few days later i wrote her a very short story that i'm going to share with you so many years ago the god of darkness met in a secret place and their objective was to hide happiness from humankind one of the gods suggested to hide happiness on the top of the mountains and after a few minutes the other god said you know what it's not gonna work because human being eventually would be able to climb the mountains and he will be able to find happiness few minutes later another god suggested to hide happiness at the bottom of the sea and sure enough the other one they said listen it's not going to work because eventually eventually men will be able to go at the bottom of the sea and find happiness a few moment of silence occurred and then the most vicious of these gods said i know where to hide happiness we can i have happiness in the bottom of people's heart because they will be so busy in climbing mountains and going at the bottom of the sea they will forget to look into their heart that's the story that i told my my daughter to say listen you have to find happiness in the bottle of your heart so 10 years later after writing the story the story became relevant to me and i realized that actually the battle that i needed to find and to vote wasn't a battle outside of me against somebody but inside of me for my own sake and allow me to say also for my own sanity and for the one of my family it was not a difficult moment and that's related to the tears and the sweat that i mentioned the beginning so i realized that if i needed to take care of myself i needed to further develop my knowledge capital i needed to reinforce my relationship capital and i need to protect my reputational capital and all of a sudden the game changed my inner game changed completely i start to find meaning in a place that probably i couldn't find it before and and i realized that my heart little by little was not filled with toxic poison anymore but with happiness and with the purpose that perhaps i lost her before i found out that when you climb the mountains like the one that was trying to climb myself i was able to find and to keep my faith in myself after losing my innocence i found out that what i was saying that what it was doing and what it was thinking was in the same place i found out that my search for meaning was completed i start again to breathe i start again to smile and i was free so thanks for listening