Proof that you are a good person | Katie Hwangbo | TEDxDaeguInternationalSchool
hello I want to tell your story in a story about how being kind to yourself correlates with Leasing identity I like to ask then you can reply yes if someone questioned you do you love yourself if you're a confident of yourself you said of course I do what would you just said to me the person who asked you is it maybe I don't know however there are few people including me full response no I don't why'd I have to well let me introduce myself first I am an introvert reserved and in after having any conversation with my friends unlike others I am very emotional and sensitive about my task as soon as they heard my introduction so maybe I can think that you are a type of person who does not want to be a friend of mine it's okay I understand that because this is my characteristic and I know not everyone is going to like me and my traits however due to the differences between me and others I experience many difficulties from my life when I was young I was pretty outgoing and I also cherished myself as treasure however my life after attending middle school and here D is has changed me many people in this school were superior than me those are the one with Welby personalities high academic grades good athletic skills and good relationship their friends like me I always felt like I was out of place compared to those people overwhelmed by their outstanding gift this cost me to start feeling hatred who are myself I cry every day in my bedroom because of the pollution effect I had to face I sometimes try to consult with soma about me and my inferiority most of the solution they provide me was why don't you have time fixing your fault be confident of yourself or just you know what they think of you every time after consulting I decide formally to change every single problems of mine I try harder to perform better than others act as big friend to the people when they greet me and be pre-op going however it did it didn't work I start to became lethargic and deprecated myself bit more as this situation deteriorated I even considered committing suicide everything went wrong for me and I felt as if I isolate myself from this society and all of them contempt on me while I was living my life in this way my mother put a book with the sticky notes that written hope you do well my table as I found out this book and I grabbed it out and begins to read and I still remember the book's title it's called a shy a shine it's ohatsu this rubbish as a german word which translated to for the person who doesn't love himself according to the book the author sees the fact that most people in nowadays mentally suffers due to various reasons first one is to fulfill other satisfaction a second one is to have ideal image of themselves in this competitive society they hurt themselves on accounts the pains that they created through self deprecation and he defines people who distressed with self deprecations tends to have pure ambitions and pure minds that they want to be a better person after reading this my mind was not from the aftershock of my reflection which I highly appreciate to this book when I finished with reading this book I start out the to exercise on the last two months first one is called a creating a list as you can see on the screen I created up to column labeled positive on the right side and naked on the left side then I read at least five things and I need to avoid and fight things that I knew achieve when I begin this activity I was the all sufferings that I experienced in the negative column and the positive column I were done what I wanted to do but I also record the goal that must be fulfilled the second one is called calm down once my activity which shorts for was activity and this green I gave you the definition / alphabet so I'll read it up for you so W is for Vaman which means to perceive and a strong animal which is to embrace and as this first in Thomasin which is tranquil attitude this activity is not about the fighting against the pain but confronting impulsive deteriorating states of mind so when you face on plus a moment just he could breathe for 5 seconds and then contemplate through yourself about how you felt today as soon as you perceive your emotion you just need to stay calm down without doing anything I was obliged to this activity for the first time however as I continue to work on this activity I possibly became a bit self accepting to myself and a bit amicable to myself we know that we need to praise ourselves at least once however we cannot we are accustomed to blaming ourselves and misunderstanding that all problem comes from our own deficiencies as time passed you will recognize that it is reckless all existing problems / unpredictable factor not from yourself I want you to I want to tell that it is very good attitude to put afford to be a better person because many people have improved from this process so I do not want you to give up on it I cannot give an obvious advice to get confident confidence and not take care of what they think of you like others but I want all of you guys know that it is not your fault despite your flaws you are awesome the way you are and I am still trying to be benign by accepting the way I am thank you for listening [Applause]