Better Mind Better Life - Think BIG and the world belong to you | Simon Steenholm | TEDxKenyalang
[Music] my name is Simon stenholm I'm from Copenhagen Denmark I have been invited here to come and tell you my story and my experience in life about having Big Dreams big thoughts Big Ideas and when I look back in my life I starting having enormously Big Dreams and ideas when I was quite small I don't know about you have you Big Dreams in your daily life yes have you also Big Dreams and ideas in your daily life and nothing happened and that's very sad sometimes right maybe you have this inner voice that tomorrow I do it next week I do it next months I do it some people collect the whole things in New Year next year going to be my year and then nothing happened right so for me it's not only about dreaming big I find out very fast that in my life I want all my dreams to come true so I also want to share with you all my learning and teaching and inspiration I got so I could make my dream come true and all you have to do now is just listen and just pretend that everything I tell you is the truth is that okay I started dreaming big when I was 6 years old I started playing football in Denmark and Copenhagen I love football from day one I really enjoy it I imagine right away then when I was 20 and 22 I will become a professional football player and I saw myself Playing For Real Madrid in Spain the biggest Club of all of course when I was 7 years old I started in public school in Copenhagen in Denmark and uh for the next 12 years I learned absolutely nothing my mindset was filled up with dreams and goals and big fantasy and because of course becoming a professional football player so I didn't mind that I learned nothing I have enough in my dreams when I was 14 years old I have been playing football two hours 4 hours every day so I become very good at it and at when I was 14 years old my coach and my trainer he come to me and he he told me Simon what is actually your dreams about football I can see you're very passionated about it I said I want to become a professional football player Real Madrid when I'm 2022 okay it's good I can see it I'm going to tell you something because I want you to have your dream come true and then he taught me the lesson the inspiration that I have been using from I was 14 and still using today so now you have to pay attention he told me it's good to have Big Dreams Simon but they can also disturb you so much if you only has it as a dream so what you have to do if you really want to have your goal and you want to achieve it you have to take your dream out of your head and you have to put it in the future because you are 14 years old now you will not become a professional football player on 6 8 10 years from now so you have to take your dream out and put it over there and he said the best way also to do it is actually you in your room at home you make a big poster clean sheet of a piece of paper and on this paper you put pictures from all the football stars from Real Madrid you find a picture of banabo Stadium you put it there you find some picture of a football or maybe even some trophies and you put it on this poster maybe you find some pictures of Spectators of people from the stadium after they have been scoring they're celebrating you put that on the poster also and in the middle of this fantastic new poster you put a picture of yourself so when you wake up in the morning and you're looking at this picture you see your dream but now you have it out of your head so what you have to do now he said you have to have even bigger dream bigger thoughts bigger ideas what you have to do in your daily life to get closer to your dreams what effort you have to do how do you sleep how do you eat how do you train all those daily things you have to do to achieve to get closer to your goals that is the daily mindset you have to have and those things have be to be stronger and more real than this dream and you also have to put inside your daily dream now that this journey this process you're going through from your forun until this will maybe happen it's going to be tough it's going to be like climbing a mountain you will have so many disappointment from now on and until you maybe become a professional football player but you will see in your new mindset so includeed in your dream that you will fail every day but you will also see yourself with your new positive mindset you pop up all the time every time you have a disappointment you have to include in your mindset that this is a part of the game to fail but you see yourself all the time pop up again so I'm a popup guy I pop up all the time do I make many mistakes do I have many frustration things that happen in my life every day yes I do but I don't care I pop up and I just continue and fighting that is how it sounds when I pop [Applause] up so I understand all what he told me so I make my poster I have new dreams every day how I can get closer to my dreams I was 18 years old I was now adult football player also and I become extremely mentally strong and I become a good football player I had the chance when I was 18 in the summertime I was in a camp in munin Glad park down in Germany this is going to happen after a small session of small playing football with some other guys two guys tackled me and I broke both my feet at the same time my dream disappear I knew right away I will never get over it I limping around for another 6 months and yes the doctor confirmed Simon you will never play football again I become very sad of course my dream disappear my poster fall down it was gone but there was something that didn't break me down my mindset I pop up again I said what do I do now so I remember at that point I had a teacher from school she told me Simon if you one day standing there you don't have any education you don't have any job your football don't work out for you make your own business it don't create you don't have to have any education to open up your own business so I said I'm standing there stupid as a black hole in the ground no education no job no football no nothing I'm going to make my own company of course so I did what my trainer have told me me make a poster white piece of paper and put your dreams on there so I start writing words because the only thing I have in my mind was positive words and I started writing them on this piece of paper words like motivation inspiration self-confidence positive mindset 50 words I put on this white piece of paper and I looked at it and say hm how am I going to turn those words into a business right away I find out of course I'm in Copenhagen Denmark very serious people I'm going to train all the people in Denmark to be more positive I'm going to train people to have a good mindset so they can overcome everything and make their dream come true because I love this things so I'm going to teach them I open up my own company about coaching and training so when I was from 19 to 21 I really have success people love it they like it they come to my speech even companies starting hire me and then I have this experience of having success so I also find out when I was 21 to be an entrepreneur to get ideas mixed them together and create something new I love it it was me from I was 21 and until I was 31 I open up 20 different business in Denmark and more or less I have success with all of them so when I was 31 I was fed up something bad happened I have success in business but as a person I failed I train everyday people to have a better life I forgot to do it myself I focused so much on business and money that I become greedy very selfish I screwed up my life in party I showing off start smoking and drinking smoking has take cocaine ecstasy pills just so I can party every day and showing myself off I fa totally and I knew it I had this voice every day actually that told me Simon what are you doing stop it do you also sometime have this voice inside yourself stop it get right do it better when I was 31 I was really collapsing and say this is not good enough so I make a new poster I want to be a better person write a lot of words about improving myself and those things and I said to myself this is what I'm going to do I'm going to be a better person I cannot have this lifestyle anymore so I sold all my businesses and I decided I would spend one year to look at myself and become a better person but actually I have another poster I make many years ago was still hanging on the wall traveling around the world for one year was one of my dreams old so I said why don't I combinate those two things travel around the world for one year and looking at myself and become a better person in one year so I make a combination of those two things and I did I started traveling around the world after three and a half years I was still traveling around the world I was ending up in in Singapore actually and I was standing there after three and a half years and I really forgot my mission about becoming a better person so I was still screwing up my life so I standing there I could not go home to Denmark where do I go there was a small island next to Singapore called Boro a small state called Sarawak there was a small city called coching I go there so I ended actually up here in Kuching many many many years ago and I love cooing from day one and I said to myself I said to myself this is the place where I'm really going to find myself and renew myself after three years it happened I focus on myself for three years here in cooing and I really love myself at that time I transformed myself I did everything I want to do and after 3 years I said no I'm going to stay here for a longer time so I stay here another 5 years and now as this new person I start of course I still have this crazy mindset of getting ideas all the time so within the next 5 years I open up five more companies and uh after 8 years I left cooing STW I went back to Denmark and start my life there and uh start coaching and training but now I didn't Focus so much about success and money I want to bring myself into it and I also have another poster I make when I went back love I was ready for love I was ready for a relationship it took me three years to find my love so now I'm married to Maria Isabel from Brazil right woo and uh have a son fantastic family and all this is because of my ability I love dreaming I love have fantasy but most of all I really love my daily life to find out how can I make it better how can I get closer to my dreams and my thoughts and my imagination so this is my inspiration to you you own your own brain correct you own your own thoughts and your dreams it belong to you so be faithful to it live it out as far as I know we have one life so go for it inspiration come within yourself there's no person in this world that can inspire you by yourself you are a product of your own mindset if you start having some thoughts some dreams some goals but you say no it's not going to happen then your brain will help you it's not going to happen and then you can call yourself and say I told you right you are a product of your own mindset I have no education at all I'm 61 years old today I still have big dreams like a small child and I'm still going for it 5 years ago in Denmark I got some new dreams about opening up a worldwide company about video coaching video training on a website that's what I'm doing today living out my dream reaching out to the whole world and making inspirational video coaching so I'm traveling around the world living out my dream I hope you will do the same please keep dreaming keep have a huge mindset don't let anything stop you a better mind a better life so keep dreaming t [Applause] [Music]