assigned seats | ezz el dein | TEDxYouth@MNS
URL: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X7ytHGUaCQE Video ID: X7ytHGUaCQE ============================================================ this [Applause] hey guys how's everyone i hope everyone's feeling good so first of all before i start everything anything could we all take our phones outside like this everyone hold it outside i can't see anybody so i hope you're doing what i'm saying great now open your notes and write down your top five closest friends do it i'm not kidding do it is everyone done so i've now closed them and just memorized it i'm about to begin my talk so question has anyone here been assigned a seat by a teacher i have [Applause] well has anyone been assigned a friend you might not get it now it was third preparatory stage and i had just moved to a new school i was feeling anxious depressed and nervous i felt vulnerable i had sat down on a desk on my own and told myself everything is going to be all right that's what i thought so a couple of few days later i had made some friends they weren't the coolest but they were company at least i had people to share my ideas with or anyone to talk to and then it came to my realization how the class was distributed on the right you had the cool kids that everyone wanted to be and in the middle you had the wannabe girls or guys and on the left you had the losers geeks the science lovers which i'm proud to say i am one of [Applause] however however i always looked at this right side and i saw in them confidence and how they were powerful and they had most importantly they had all the attention and i always seek the attention to be honest so what did i do i approached them day by day and i even started started watching football which i love so i just watched it to start any conversation with them and what do you know day after day i became one of them i became one of the cool kids finally [Applause] so we used to do these weird habits or how do you call them a daily routine really we used to skip classes disturb the class wreck school stuff because we're cool no one can judge us and there was always this voice inside me telling me is what are you doing this is wrong this is not you why are you doing this stop it now i ignored it i never cared really what it said it was a normal session so we sat down on our side the right side and there was this teacher that we always made fun of she used to stutter a lot so we actually counted how many times she stuttered or did anything we disliked really so my teacher had realized what i had done and actually before that i felt guilty just writing everything she said i felt the guilt just trembled down on me but i kept quiet because i was afraid i was going to lose them i was afraid that they were going to judge me for not accepting accepting what we did so the teacher took me aside and told me i looked to her in how do you describe i didn't know what she meant really at first so i thought i go home and sat down and looked through a mirror and looked into a mirror and just told myself so i thought to myself i had to lose these people now or never so what did i do i gradually just stepped away stepped away stepped away until we lost contact we no longer talked again they never cared to ask why really because they never actually cared about me they just wanted to destroy me so where did i go you might ask back to my starting point the left side with all the geeks nerds you name it the people who actually care for me they accepted me and they let me share my thoughts and ideas with them and i realized this is the place where i belong this is my assigned seat after all this my assigned seat so you should always stick with your friends your real friends and usually it's you that you have to be your own wake-up call and whenever i'm sitting with my friends i always look at this right side and think to myself they're ugly they're no longer cool as i thought and if you're ever in this in this situation like i was in and you don't want to admit it and if you're feeling like someone is choking you and not letting you share your thoughts or ideas or just saying anything this is not a friendship this is a toxic friendship that you're in which is completely wrong so guys let's take our phones again yes yes let's look at our list are these actually your friends think about it thank you thank you so much that was not me that was him