The Perception of Joy | Lexi Lapore-Paternostro | TEDxYouth@AHSDelray
[Applause] what makes you happy what's something that brings you joy where does your happiness come from I'm Lexie and I'm here to tell you how to change your perception of joy minor disclaimer all the photos in this slideshow that look personal have been taken by me and bring me joy and hopefully they will for you as well let's begin with the first question I asked you what makes you happy I want you to actually think about it right now when you've got something and you'd like to share please raise your hand oh nice Maddie [Music] a cat what makes you happy your friends what makes you mad your family unsurprisingly the majority of Americans agree with three of these statements 63% responded with family 32% with faith represent with work in the rain meeting filled with community these were taken from a bowl of my healthy go home now learn three ways you can actually change your perspective enjoy well one appreciation of the world to how we find joy in the world and three how we share that joy first up appreciation Kurt Vonnegut an American author once said that we should enjoy the little things in life because one day we'll look back and realize they were big things this is an amazing book because it applies to everyone in everything looking back there were little details later but right now and we'll all of you to stand up [Music] okay now if you've traveled outside of Florida stay standing that's pretty much everyone if you traveled outside of the United States before stay standing fine if you've been to the country where your family originated stays napping that's great this summer my family and I had the amazing opportunity to go to Italy the experience culture through food people experiences amazing sightseeing when we were in Boone a row where my maternal ancestors are from perusing the town well either alaways and all of a sudden they come across this broad expanse of mountains and you know those moments in books or movies when the character goes it took my breath away you're like yeah right that actually happens in real life I kid you not I audibly gasp gasps when I saw this southern view it may not seem like much here but when you're there in real life it's amazing now how many thought I enjoy finding joy can happen multiple times throughout the day it can be a grand gesture or a little miniscule action some things specific things that bring me joy include these pictures these are my siblings and I in the car on the first day of school these are two mikey decaf tactile cue the one in the front is lollipop in history these are my siblings and I in Venice and some things that apply to other people as well may include the cross meeting your favorite actress and it's more musical dad jokes or as my friends like to call them bad jokes Tom Boland someone's favorite books and most importantly what brings me enjoy the most is lots and lots no I was just kidding now let's move on to sharing joy I have a mission for everyone here tonight it's not work you ready compliments compliment someone three times a day tell your best friend that her makeup looks really nice at lunch one day tell your teacher that all that hard work for you does not go unappreciated it can even be yourself in the morning when you're getting ready compliment yourself on your hair because it's actually doing something rather than looking like a frizzy mess for once next smile it's cliche I know smile makes you happy but it actually does smiling according to dr. Michael horn f PhD and author of soft wired actually rewards your rank and improves your mood so smiling can help other people experience the joy that you have and also yourself physically and mentally in conclusion three things to change your perspective on joy appreciation of the world how we find joining the world and how we share that joy now that you've heard me rant about my experiences and my joy and enthusiasm that I seem to have performing in front of all of you I want you to make your own perfect moment of happiness I'm gonna ask you to close your eyes no cheat now envision this where are you what are you doing who are you with and just live in that moment of happiness if you create okay you can open your eyes thank you this quote from Southwire really sums up my speech in a great way I'll read it for you if you started to slow down and simplify your life if you're spending time in nature and I've surrounded yourself with beauty if you've latched on to synchrony synchronicity and tune into your creativity and if you've learned to enjoy each moment you're probably already smiled on in fact you may find yourself absolutely grinning from time to time remember pre shade the world find joy in it and share that joy free compliments of death I'm Lexi thank you for coming my pet dog [Applause]