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Be The Best You | Tim Cork | TEDxYorkU

[Applause] yeah What Lies Beneath us and what lies before us is small in comparison to what lies within us Ralph Waldo Emerson now I want to tell you a story there was a great Cherokee Chief and he was sitting one night with his grandson and they were sitting in front of a fire stars all over the sky beautiful evening and he looked at his grandson and he said to his grandson there is there's a great battle that is waging inside of me right now and it's a battle between two Wolves and the first wolf he is an evil wolf and he tells lies and deceit he also is rude and arrogant at times and the second wolf he is a good wolf he is happy he's humble he's generous he's genuine he also is has great wisdom and he is a wolf of abundance and he gets give so the two of them sit there for a little while and finally the grandson breaks the silence and he says to his grandfather which wolf wins the grandfather hesitates or he pauses for a little bit and he looks at his grandson and he says the one you feed which wolf for you feeding which wolf are you looking at every day the greatest gift you can give to you is being the best you how do you be the best you the greatest gift you can give to you is being great in your community the greatest gift to you you can give to your friends is being the best you it makes a huge difference how do you be the best you how do you come out it's like an iceberg it's a great metaphor see 10% of the icebergs on the surface 90% of the iceberg is underneath the surface how do you tap into that huge potential below the surface how do you become the best you today you are you that is truer than true there is no one alive who is youer than you Dr Seuss if you think about it when you get on an airplane what's the first thing that they do they go through and they show you the safety procedures right and they don't say hey you know what put the oxygen mask on the small children beside you oxygen mask on the elderly person beside you they say make sure you put that oxygen mask on you first take care of you first you have to be able to take a breath you have to be able to step back it's the same in life it's true in life you have to be able to step back now right now you're having a conversation with yourself right now you're having another conversation with yourself as a matter of fact if you want to go up to people at any point in time and walk up to them and just say how's that conversation going they're they're going to think that's a little bit strange but it's true see on an average day the average human has anywhere from 25,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day that's a lot that's a lot and what are you programming into your personal computer is it positive is it negative we're going to go in both areas right positive and negative at different times what are you programming into your personal computer what are you saying to you how do you make a difference how do you feel good about you and you know I'm not saying you have to jump up and down and go crazy you have to create your style but here's the thing if you can't get excited about you why should I why should I get excited about you I mean you got to get excited about you you got to get get excited about your service your product everything you do it's true in life get excited feel good about you I use my name is my acronym in life for what I do and why I do what I do and that's just simply Tim I touch Inspire and move I touch Inspire and move people to take action on their passion and their goals that's my big why that's my purpose it's not just the what it's the why what's your purpose what's your big why how are you creating that for people you also got to look at who who's going to help you who's on your dream team who can make a difference for you dream team what I mean by a dream team is the people around you that are going to have a huge impact and the people you hang around with most of the time that's who you become and I always like to talk about eagles eagles are the people who soar the people of wisdom the people who have done it before if you want to be an eagle you got to hang with the Eagles you got to soar with the Eagles you got to fly with the Eagles ask the Eagles anything you want to do anything you want to be anything you want to see people are already doing it or they've done it before go to the Eagles ask them and if they don't want to help you guess what they're not Eagles Eagles get give Eagles get making a difference for other people now we are pack animals we have been pack animals for millions of years until 10,000 years ago when we had the Agricultural Revolution we hung around in small packs because that's the way the only way we could survive as hunt hunters and gatherers so huddle up huddle up we work better as teams Theodore gel Theodore Gil he's one of the greatest philosophers that ever lived he's an amazing philosopher absolutely brilliant a lot of fun too a lot of us don't know who Theodore Gil is well this will help you Dr Seuss oh the Places she'll go one of the greatest books ever written on life and this is a little bit scary and by the way it's one of the number one one of the top books given to graduating college and university students in the US one of the top books great book on life I've memorized the whole book that might be a little bit scary to some of you but I I kind of like Dr Seuss I'm not going to do the whole book but let me do the first few pages he starts off and he says congratulations today is your day you're off to great places you're off in away you have brains in your head you have feet in your shoes you can steer yourself any direction you choose Seuss gets it he gets it it's all about choice it's all about Choice he goes on in the book and he talks about fear rejection and failure indispensable prerequisites for success as long as you learn from it because it's just experience experience is success and then he ends the book and he says yes you will succeed yes you will indeed 98 and 3/4% guaranteed it's not 100% but you can get pretty close he talks about the waiting place too who hasn't hung out in the waiting Place we've all hung out in the waiting place number one rule for abundance and success in life this is the number one rule and it simply just goes like this give give and it's an attitude it's an attitude if you go into a situation with the attitude of what can I do for you if it's a few people or a group of people how do you think it's going to go I know how it's going to go it's going to go really well because that's the attitude to go into situations with most people go into the situation with what can you do for me that's called take that's take you got to give you got to put it out there and you know what a lot of people say if I'm always give give give give give give give how do I get I'm not saying you don't get but giving starts the receiving process it gets everything going now there's lots of gives there's lots of gives that you can go and you know some of my favorite are the present being in the present see the past is history the future is a mystery today as a gift that's why they call it the present the only thing you can ever control is right now you learned from the past we plan for the future because you can't hit a Target you can't see but the present is the key be in the present what are some other great gifts smile thank you please laugh collaborate those are all great gifts I mean the classic gifts are obviously charity money time but here's one of my favorite favorite and if you ever get confused with this one just look in the mirror because your Anatomy will help you on this one you're born with two ears and one mouth use them proportionately as a matter of fact double up on the ear quotient and listen four times as often as you speak people think when they're talking they control the situation oh contrary it's not true the person who asks good questions and listens controls every situation ask good questions and listen a lot of people will call it networking I like to call it net giving see net giving takes the work out of networking it's a great philosophy great attitude to carry yourself through life milkshakes I love chocolate milkshakes and I when I get you know I I love to test out hotels their C Service when I get there I usually get up to my room and I order room service I'll call down and I'll ask for a chocolate milkshake now a lot of these hotels don't have chocolate milkshakes or they don't have it on their room service so if it's a Four Seasons or a Ritz they get it anticipate the customer needs they'll make sure you get that but a lot of hotels won't do it so I'll call up and I'll say could I have a chocolate milkshake and they say we don't have chocolate milkshakes so I just say okay well help me out here do you have any chocolate sauce and any chocolate powder yes we do do you have any vanilla ice cream or chocolate ice cream yes we do do you have any milk yes we do do you have a blender yes we do could I please have a chocolate milkshake so sometimes that works it doesn't always work and I've gone down and made milkshakes too and some hotels call me the milkshake man you know I put myself out there let me tell you another quick story my wife and I frequent sandals on a pretty regular basis and this one Resort is in Exuma in the Bahamas and they get service so this is about three years ago the first day uh we were there we went in at 6:00 in the morning and I was getting a l latte for my wife I'm not a big coffee drinker but I love chocolate milkshakes so I walk in three three young girls standing there Christian was the girl in the middle big smiles all of them and they said uh what would you like I'd like a latte for my wife that's great and how about you well you know what I'd like a chocolate milkshake but I don't usually them at 6:00 in the morning so they said why don't you come back at noon so I came back at noon I walked in all three of them great big smiles Christian looked at me and said would you like your chocolate milkshake as a matter of fact I would would you like us to put a banana in it that would be great please put a banana in it at least I can pre pretend it's somewhat healthy then so she didn't have a banana she had to go to another place in the resort came back made a great milkshake then she blew me away way she looked at me and she said would you like a milkshake every day she anticipated I said as a matter of fact I would so I became the milkshake man around the resort when I walked in there it was a lot of fun we had a great time here's here's what I'd like to throw out to you what are your milkshake moments how do you create those Great Moments those great milkshake moments you can have anything you want in life if you help enough people get what they want in life the more people you help be successful in the life in life the more successful you will be let me just finish it off with this life is an echo what you send out comes back if you send it out in abundance it comes back in abundance keeps coming back it bounces it ricochets thank you very much for your time